It’s the first Wednesday of the month, and you know what that means. It’s #IWSG Day! The question this month is…
What pitfalls have you encountered on your journey to publication that you can share with others?
Well, uh… hmm. I don’t actually know of many pitfalls from direct personal experience. To date, I only have two minimal publishing credits to my name. This post, therefore, will focus on the one that I feel is the biggest and most fatal pitfall facing all of us creative folks: the pitfall of giving up.
But first, allow me to drop a plug for the Insecure Writers Support Group. The IWSG, founded by the esteemed Alex J. Cavanaugh, is an online space where writers (insecure and otherwise) can come together to share stories, successes, struggles, and all the rest of it. The website is chock-o-block full of great stuff. There’s a Twitter Pitch (just happened in July), contests, books, swag, conferences, and more. Be sure to jump over there and check them out!
The awesome co-hosts for the August 1 posting of the IWSG are Erika Beebe, Sandra Hoover, Susan Gourley, and Lee Lowery!
Okay, back to this month’s topic: pitfalls to void.
A Lesson from Stephen King!
Back in my early 20’s, right around the time I got married, I bought a copy of Stephen King’s semi-autobiographical craft book On Writing. In it, King shared his youthful adventures in writing an submitting short stories with blind optimism to the magazines he loved to read: Analog, Asimov’s, Amazing Stories, etc. He started submitting in his early teens. As you can imagine, he got a lot of rejection letters.
King did something great, though, in turning the submission/rejection thing into a game. Upon receiving his first rejection letter–a form letter–, he drove a nail into the wall of his bedroom and impaled the letter upon it. How quickly could King accumulate enough rejection letters to overwhelm that nail? Understand, please, that King didn’t compromise the quality of the stories he wrote and submitted in an attempt to grow the stack with artificial speed. That would have been cheating. His primary goal was always to write the best story he could and get it published. He merely created a synergistic secondary goal that he could work towards when he wasn’t making progress toward his primary goal.
The important lesson I took from reading his book was that it’s possible to find ways of turning failures into successes. There are ways to immunize ourselves against the discouraging sting that comes with rejection. A sting that all too often ends up crippling creative individuals and ending their careers before they begin.
Playing the Game
Upon finishing his book, I decided it might be fun to try my hand at King’s game. I’d been writing stories all my life and harbored secret fantasies of becoming a successful author. But that required sticking my vulnerable neck out and submitting the stuff I wrote. The “Rejection Game,” as I called it, gave me permission to expose myself to the volley of rejections I knew would ensue.
Over the course of the next year, I researched and submitted to close to fifty magazines. This was in the very early days of the internet, so most venues still required print submissions sent via snail mail with self-address-stamped return envelopes for letters of acceptance/rejection. Of those fifty submissions, I received 48 rejection letters. Two magazines took a story from me. Tiny publications that paid out in single contributor copies, but still, two out of fifty. I was pleased.
Confession: I miss getting rejection letters in the mail. Even a form letter felt a tiny bit nifty when presented in a physical envelope that arrives in your mailbox. A digital email just doesn’t carry the same special weight.
Watch Out for That Pitfall. It’s a Doozy.
If only I’d kept at it! Remember, this was happening the year after I got married. And changed my job. And got pregnant with my first child. Guess who stopped writing and submitting stories? Yeah, me.
Thirteen years would pass before I sent out another story on submission. What can I say? Life got busy. I got distracted. Not an excuse, just my reality. I didn’t give up intentionally. Many folks probably wade into the pitfall of giving up slowly, day by day. So many things can fill up our lives that we can feel as though we’re drowning in quicksand. I was certainly feeling that way last October when I wrote my post, “Life, Will You Just Chill Out Already?”
Lots of people never figure out how to strike a balance between their writing goals and life obligations, or maybe they fail to immunize themselves against the sting of having their creative work turned down over and over again. That didn’t happen to me, but I’ve witnessed it happen to other writers. Without some way to turn each “no” into a positive, the weight of all those “thanks, but no thanks” can accumulate until it’s crushing your soul. And Odin knows, it’s the easiest thing in the world to set that weight aside and do something else.
On my way out the door of my MFA program at Lesley University, I was reminded of the lesson I’d gleaned a decade and a half ago from Mr. King’s book. If you want to succeed, you must keep writing, keep submitting, keep querying. Young Adult author Jason Reynolds told me and a small classroom of other impending graduates that the difference between those that make it in the publishing industry and those that don’t is persistence. The authors who find success are the ones who don’t give up. They kept playing their very own “Rejection Game” until something stuck. Talent helps, but even the most talented writer in the world can fall into the pitfall of giving up.
Lessons from Vigo Mortensen
Have you ever seen the movie G.I. Jane with Demi Moore and Viggo Mortensen? I love that movie. Whatever. Don’t judge me. I’m not judging all the fans who love 300. It’s all love here!
Anyway, there’s a scene in that film where the cadets are doing push-up’s and leg lifts and other generally awful forms of exhausting exercises in the ocean. They’re right in the middle of the breaker zone, icy waves crashing down over them again and again. It’s been hours. They’re soaked, sand-blasted, shaking with fatigue and the early stages of hypothermia. And the Master Chief (Viggo) is walking up and down the line shouting all kinds of philosophical musings at them. This is the moment when he delivers a few lines that resonated to my core.
“Pain is your friend, your ally. It will tell you when you are seriously injured. It will keep you awake, and angry, and remind you to finish the job and get the hell home. But you know the best thing about pain? It lets you know you’re not dead yet.”
Viggo’s basically telling his cadets to embrace their pain and frustration and exhaustion because it means they haven’t given up. Stephen King and Jason Reynolds were preaching less intense variants of the same philosophy.
As creative folks, rejection hurts. Of course it does, but that sting you feel means you’re still playing the game, you haven’t quit, you’re not dead yet. So there you have it. Giving up is the first and biggest pitfall you can fall into on your way to getting published.
Don’t give up.
Find a way to turn the rejections into positives. Make the pain be your friend. Keep writing, or painting, or sculpting, or composing, or whatever it is that you make. In this world that is becoming more and more obsessed with consumption, we need folks who engage in glorious acts of creation.
What’s your strategy for staying resilient and skirting the pitfall of quitting? Help the rest of us out by sharing in the comments!
Thanks for stopping by, and as always, happy writing to you.
Two out of fifty is awesome! You have a wonderful perspective on rejection.
This stood out for me: “In this world that is becoming more and more obsessed with consumption, we need folks who engage in glorious acts of creation.”
Just the other day, I was pondering the fact that we’ve become a society obsessed with consumption at the expense of creation.
I read somewhere that, upon awaking, the average person reaches for his cell phone first… typical consumer behaviour. The wanting, hunting, and getting of things seems to be the biggest factor encroaching on creativity.
I’m outing myself as a fan of G.I. Jane, too! On Writing is just the best advice for writers. Every rejection has the seed for greater success – very Napoleon Hill-ish.
Right? Yes! You totally get it. 🙂
I prefer the Viggo quote from 28 Days – the one where the woman (possibly played by Sandra Bullock) goes into rehab, and meets Viggo who’s the baseball star with a secret drinking problem. Anyway, she finds Viggo out in the woods practising his pitch (I think that’s the term for the throw the pitcher makes!). The quote is about not thinking where the ball is going, but thinking about perfecting what you are doing so the ball has the best chance of hitting the right spot when it leaves your hand… after it does that you have no control over what happens.
That’s a good thought for nearly everything I do when I have no control over what happens after ‘it’ leaves me, whether ‘it’ is the golf ball, or the book.
(I enjoyed King’s book, too)
You know, I saw that movie and didn’t think very much of it, but that is the one scene in the film that stuck with me. I don’t remember the exact quote either, but yeah, it was all about focusing on what you could control, which was your own hand right up until you let go of the ball. An apt analogy for writing. Give it your full focus and effort until you let it go by submitting it somewhere. Thanks for reminding me of that other inspirational Viggo movie moment. Hope the writing is going well for you, Jemima. Happy August! 🙂
I also learned the hard way about that particular pitfall. I had given up writing for about ten years. Biggest mistake of my life.
Don’t look back on it as a mistake. It was what it was. Now you need only to be looking forward. Glad that you found your way back to writing. Here’s hoping you stick with it moving forward. Thanks for stopping by, Lynda, and happy writing to you! 🙂
I sometimes feel like authors have to be some of the bravest people, because they stick their necks out to be chopped off over and over and over. Most people avoid that feeling! It’s crazy, sure, but it’s also brave. On a good day, I’m proud to be part of the company getting rejected.
You should be proud! Creative folks are the real risk takers in life. We lead by example with bravery and positivity. Thanks for stopping by. Happy August, and happy writing to you! 🙂
Life can get in the way and writing and submitting fall by the wayside. I put it aside for almost 15 years before I was in a place where I could dive back in again.
I suspect it happens to a lot of people. So long as we come back it it, though, that is the important thing. Glad you’re back to writing, and thanks for stopping by. 🙂
Well, that was fun. I love honest posts that give some insights into writers and their work. I have a picture on the wall next to my computer. It’s a stork with a frog whose head is in the stork’s beak with only its legs dangling free. The frog is clutching the stork’s neck, shutting it closed. The capture: Don’t Ever Give Up. I can’t tell you how many times that image has saved me from hurling the computer out the window. Glad to meet you this month during the challenge.
I know that poster! A toast to whatever totems we’re able to either create or find that help us pole vault or swing across the pit of despair. Thanks for stopping by. Hope your August is filled with success. 🙂
I like the nail idea. I’ve heard of other authors plastering their walls with those letters.
I guess you could always print out an email rejection…
I do, actually, but it just isn’t the same. But, then again, I’m the type who prefers paper books to ebooks, too. I read ebooks, but there’s something lacking in the experience when you can’t flip the physical pages, feel the texture of the paper between your fingers. Thanks for stopping by, Alex.
That is excellent advice. I’ve read similar advice that getting rejections is a good thing. You know you’re doing something. Glad you’re back in the game.
Thanks, Susan. It feels good to be writing again, for sure. Thanks for stopping by. 🙂
‘Don’t give up’ sounds like something I would do. I’m pretty d&*( stubborn when it comes right down to it. 🙂
Anna from elements of emaginette
Some are more tenacious than others. That’s true. Thanks for stopping by, Anna. 🙂
Rejection hurts, but it is a part of life. I LOVED On Writing. Stephen King is a brilliant writer.
I loved it, too, and have re-read it twice since. However, now that I’m older and have gone through a writing program, I can see that King presents his writing process as very prescriptive, meaning “this is how you do it.” You have to have a place in which you write, you have to pick a time of day in which you write, you must write every day, you must write 2000 words every day. Too rigid. It doesn’t acknowledge the broad spectrum of creative process that exists. All that said, there’s still a tremendous amount of great stuff in that book. Thanks for stopping by. 🙂
Wow, I love your take on rejection. The writing world can be harsh. That kind of determination will serve you well.
Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for stopping by! Yeah, it does sting. No doubt, but reframing it can help.
I read On Writing a few months ago. While I don’t think I’ve ever read any of King’s novels, I really enjoyed reading about his writing process. Lots of great food for thought. I love that you created your own rejection game. What a great way to go about it!
Well, I blatantly stole the idea from King, so I can’t take credit, but it really does help not get beaten down by rejections. Thanks for stopping by.